- Dating for 8 years, still no proposal
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- No commitment after 7 years together - what should I do?
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Wow, thank you everyone for the responses.
Dating for 8 years, still no proposal
I should have elaborated a bit more. We already pay for the vacation, so the ceremony would make it all that much more memorable and special. But when is the timing ever right? For kids or marriage?
7 Signs He's Never Going To Propose
How is your relationship overall? How satisfied are you with things like your careers, your sex life and your financial situation? How is your communication with each other? Do you share mutual friends and enjoy activities together? Do you have fun together? Would you describe your relationship as passionate and exciting? There has to be more substance to the relationship than that.
MORE IN LIFE
You need to know these things. You need to think about them. Take the ball back. Because I feel could have written this response a year and a half ago. Darling Husband had the same hesitations — finances. Maybe start a conversation about finances and what your goals as a couple are and have the marriage talk spring from there. The relationship is honestly great; sex and all. We both have careers. Financially we are good. And believe me, I have talked to him about this, I just feel that he already has a lot on his plate, and I hate adding to it, when I know the answer is always the same.
Someone asked how old I was when my parents divorced. I love him pretty unconditionally. It is very important for a woman to know how the man she is dating feels and whether he will eventually step up and propose. These 7 signs help you clarify if he thinks your relationship is for keeps or just fun for right now. He only makes plans for the immediate or short term. He is always ready to make a date for tonight or this weekend but rarely makes plans for the distant future. For instance, you ask him to plan a romantic vacation for next year and he acts hesitantly telling you, "That sounds great, but let's wait until it gets closer before booking the flight and hotel.
He rarely sings your praises to his friends and family. This can be spotted when you are around those closest to him and they say something to the effect of, "Wow, Bob never told us how smart and talented you are! In social settings, when the topic of marriage or children comes up, he quickly changes the subject.
In addition, if he cannot change the subject, he will try to distract you or remove you from the conversation. He may mention the buffet and that he is hungry so he can avoid having to face any questions from the conversation. Or he has fears because his parents are divorced. Or maybe marriage is something he keeps forgetting to bring up with you. Whatever the topic is, you should be able to discuss and solve the issue if you are truly right for marriage.
Talk to him, and then if you are still not happy with the answer, move on. If you think about it, you have nothing to lose. A man who really wants to be your husband and after 7 years of dating will not let you go that easily if it's meant to be. I know that in some societies living together is seen as a prelude to marriage, but please, DO NOT do this.
This will not help your man commit. He will now have his 'wife' sex every day, homecooked meals, a maid, a listening ear, an interior decorator, etc. This is the absolute stupidist thing you can do, unless you both agree to marry but want to do a trial 'living together' period first before marriage. But do not do that without a ring and a date.
No commitment after 7 years together - what should I do?
If you were my daughter, the advise that I'd give you is: Have a long heart to heart talk. You want to get married, he apparantly isnt ready for this. Find out what the reason is and what the problem is. He might just not be feeling the ever after with you and thats a big concern.
Maybe he is just gunshy and after the conversation he'll feel better. If after 7 yrs and both of you being financially set to get married, if he isnt ready to commit now he maybe will never be. Move on and see what else is out there. Give each other some breathing room and see what is the best for each of you. Take a break and agree for each of you to see other people. Apparantly something is not clicking if he is afraid of a commitment at this point. This Site Might Help You. Its always one excuse after another Why not sit down with him and ask him why he wishes not to commit?
Ask him his plans for the future and see if you can work out if you do want the same things. Its a make or break situation, and the only thing you can do is ask him why he won't and listen to him. You might as well bolt, if you really want to get married. I knew a guy whose long-time gf wanted him to move in with her.
She had a teen-age son who got along well with him, and his older sister, who didn't. He used her as an excuse to not move in. After she graduated, and moved out, he bought a dog, knowing full well that her condo lease didn't allow dogs. This guy is never going to get married, I don't think. You should find someone else. And don't look back. He might agree to marry you, but then it'll be back to the excuses and the stalling.